Happy Asexual Awareness Week!
Did you know that October 26 to November 1 is Asexual Awareness Week? Have you hugged an asexual friend this week?
In case you didn’t know, asexuality is an orientation where people don’t desire sex, but they do form emotional and romantic relationships (you can read about it in our very own LGBTQ terms list here. Asexuals can be gay, straight, bisexual or anything else. They can be transgender or cisgender. They might find sex gross or uninteresting. And because sex is so often described as the thing that makes a relationship really committed, asexuals can feel lonely, or different from everybody else.
So how can I help?
It’s important to be allies to all people of all orientations, and being an ally is different depending on who you’re standing up for. Here are some simple things you can do to stick up for asexuals:
- Respect everyone’s choices when it comes to sex. If you establish yourself as someone who is safe to talk to no matter what the subject, you may find you have asexual friends you didn’t know about.
- If you find out that someone you know is asexual, don’t ask them if they’ve given it a fair shot, if their asexuality was caused by trauma or if they just haven’t met the right person yet. Accept what this person tells you about themselves without questioning or judging it.
- Don’t make assumptions about asexuality. People stereotype asexuals as boring, naive, or spiritually enlightened, but asexuality is just one aspect to complicated and exciting people.
- Stand up for asexuality in conversation. Correct misinformation when you can.
If you are interested in learning more about asexuality, here are some great links to get you started: